Yeah, kids bounced around in foster care fall behind in school. Yeah, school is important. But parents of RAD kids just can’t be involved in helping their kids with homework. Jennie has been great at separating home from school in the kids minds, while working tirelessly with the teachers. (I on the other hand want to duct tape the kids to their desk chairs until their homework is done). Because of this our first two children have made tremendous academic achievement.

I ran across this article on attachment.org that really explains this concept.

When parents push or interrupt around the issue homework and responsibility, the oppositional child will push back, and what they push away is the knowledge they have to have to succeed in life. As push comes against shove in the homework battle the parent/child relationship can be destroyed. I’ve had parents describe to me, sitting at the table, four to five hours nightly, as a child cries and argues and fusses, and whines over each page. I asked one incredibly dedicated father, after he asked me the solution to his nightly homework battle with his son, how his son’s grades were, he replied, “He’s failing!”. Parents push, the children fail. read the whole article

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Lynn is the co-founder of Forever Homes, and Owner of Canyon Lakes Family Counseling Center, a Mental Health Clinic, where he specializes in treating adopted and foster children. He has over 20 years experience in Residential Care, Foster Care and adoption. Combined he and his wife have parented about 100 kids.
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