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When our Kids Play Dumb

Community Administrator — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:22:46 +0000

Nonsense Questions and Chatter

Community Administrator — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:19:55 +0000

What you do with Pee (humor)

Community Administrator — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:15:25 +0000

The Power of Being Present

Community Administrator — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:14:43 +0000

The Power of Your Voice

Community Administrator — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:01:46 +0000

When Our Kids are Stuck

Community Administrator — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 23:26:30 +0000

Excretions

Community Administrator — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 23:01:48 +0000

A child with Attachment Disorder will often use body fluids to make parents angry and keep them away. If it bugs you they get mileage out of it and the problem will last longer. Stay calm and get happy that your child will have more practice cleaning than other poor children without this opportunity! Children over three must help clean excretions up. Children over five must do it themselves.

Dumb Questions

Community Administrator — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:58:33 +0000

Examples: “Do people eat bricks”, Which kitchen do you want me to sweep?”

These questions must be answered by the child. The child must work harder on changing their yucky behavior than the parent.

Option: That’s a good question. I want you to tell me three ways you can figure out which kitchen needs swept.

Drugs and Alcohol

Community Administrator — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:56:49 +0000

Drugs present unique problems because you cannot heal a relationship with someone who is dead, whose brain is fried or who is dying of AIDS. Children will try drugs and alcohol. The wise parent needs to have a pact with the child that if the child ever has more than one drink, the child will call home and the parent will come and give them a ride. No question, no lectures, no hassling. If drinking or drug use becomes a repeated occurrence or if you suspect or have confirmed drug use (home tests are available); remove the child from the environment immediately. Get professional help at the first indications.

Door Alarm, Setting off

Community Administrator — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:47:18 +0000

Door alarm, setting off· Children who have not been kept safe during the first three years will set the alarm off to see how quickly parents will come to save them from a possible intruder. 1allow that the first few nights. That’s enough testing. I get cranky when I don’t get enough sleep. If the child is still testing you, it must be stopped. They are interrupting their sleep patterns, which cause more inappropriate behavior in the daytime. Option: The child needs more exercise. Take them hiking or swimming to help establish healthy sleep patterns. Option: Have them practice staying in their room in the daytime while the rest of the family takes a nap to catch up on the sleep they missed from the little tester. Option: Have the child do some extra chores to help out the overtired parent to compensate for the lack of sleep.